How many times have you heard yourself or someone else say, “If only I had … (fill in your own ‘must have’ here), everything would be fine!” Like one seemingly unattainable thing would suddenly make life complete?
It doesn’t matter what it is – money, a loving relationship, losing weight, we’ve all been there and thought that one thing is the deal maker or breaker.
Then stop again and think.
When you’ve found yourself in that situation, if you get whatever it is, almost immediately you forget that it was so important and move on to some other desire. Sometimes the feeling of wholeness lasts a bit longer, particularly if you’ve had to work or save hard to get it, but it still eventually loses its shine.
So what is the solution to short lived happiness? That dopamine fix that needs constant feeding?
I’ve found the answer is to genuinely take pleasure in small day to day things. Whether it’s opening a new jar of coffee, going to bed in sheets that smell of the outdoors and sunshine, luxuriating in a warm bath, listening to a piece of music that lifts your soul. All of these things can help you to appreciate Life and make your whole day seem better.
If you can’t think of anything, the best thing is to get yourself a notebook and every time you do something that makes you feel that happy switch has been flipped, jot it down. It helps if you have a nice notebook that almost begs you to write in, and is a pleasure to look at and hold. When you get to the end of the day, take some time to sit down and re-read it, so it really sinks into your mind.
If you make a point of doing this exercise over a week or so, I think you’ll be surprised to find how many things actually DO make you feel happy. It’s just that you’ve let the moments pass you by before.
It’s all about living in the moment. If you have a busy Life, it’s an easy thing to overlook, and if you’re like most people, it’s far easier for your brain to hang on to the bad things rather than the good things. Following this line means that you’re much more likely to feel low, negative and useless, as that’s what your brain is storing away.
This might not read very much like a magick post, but believe me it IS. When your mind is in its optimum frame, you’re far more likely to have success with any workings that you do, as you are giving off positivity, and that helps your conjure to work far better, just as feeding and watering a plant helps it to grow and strengthen, so it is better able to cope with times when life isn’t so easy.
So give it a go. Start to notice the small things and the bigger things will become easier to obtain and achieve. Your positive attitude will act like a magnifying glass, and suddenly good things will start to be drawn to you. If that’s not magick, I don’t know what is!
If you try this, let me know what results you have. I can say for one that it really turned my life around. It might take a while, but it’s one of the most useful tools you can have in your kit.
Writer and purveyor of the magickal arts.